Updated: Dec 1, 2020
If you've ever felt the feeling of peeing while you reach climax, you have one hundred percent encountered squirting. Many stigmas are surrounding it, which is why we decided to make this blog post to debunk all the myths and help you feel more comfortable with your body.
What is squirting anyway?
Female ejaculation, best known as Squirting, is the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during sex. Yes, this fluid comes from the urethra, not the vagina. Consequently, it's believed that this liquid is a mixture of ejaculatory fluid and urinary fluid (yes, pee). If you've stumbled upon the world of porn you've seen how women climax and achieve squirting easily, so why isn't it the same for me?
It's not like in adult movies
Remember, all that glitters is not gold, and as good as it might seem, porn actors have many ways of imitating the real thing. Some porn stars drink excessive amounts of water before filming, and others even fill in their vaginas with water and train their muscles to release the fluid in command. This last statement is why some people believe that squirt comes out of the vagina instead of the urethra, but we know this is not true.
You'll not gush like a river
Because of the porn industry and the image they've sold us of squirting, some women may feel pressured if they don't achieve it, but we're here to tell you, it's okay! In fact, you may have already experienced squirting and have not even realized it, because squirting doesn't necessarily mean a full gush of liquid that goes everywhere. We know that all our bodies are different and how you experience squirting, is not the same as how a friend or another woman will experience it.
You don't need an orgasm
You don't have to squirt to experience a full-on orgasm, again this comes as something porn has shown us, but no, squirting is no proof for reaching climax. Actually, squirting can happen at any time during sexual roleplay, not necessarily penetration. It can happen as a reaction to feeling aroused, but you don't have to have an orgasm to squirt.
Ejaculation VS Squirting
According to a neurophysiologist from Rutgers University in Newark, New Jersey, female ejaculation refers to the milky white liquid that takes place at orgasm. While squirting, according to Barry Komisaruk, also at Rutgers, refers to a liquid chemically similar to urine. It is not completely set in stone whether both terms are different, but what we can assure you is that squirting is completely normal and that ejaculation has helped many women and their partners perceive the experience of female ejaculation as an enrichment of their sexual lives (Thomson, 2020).
The easy answer to getting your splash on is to find your G-spot. Stimulating it can help contract the muscles surrounding the bladder, causing the splashing sensation, but how do I find my G-spot? According to Laurie Watson, AASECT certified sex therapist, the G-spot is located on the roof of the vagina, it is a few inches inside, directly below the urethra. Your fingers, their movement, and the positioning of your body will be the best combination for reaching your climax. Essentially, all women have a G-spot but it depends on your body how you find it and where it is, which is why it's super important you practice self-exploration. Be gentle, set the mood, and softly stroke with your fingers or a toy. You'll know when you find it because it becomes larger in size or more pronounced when feeling aroused.
Don't force it!
Forcing the liquid out of your body will only hurt the walls in your urethra, so relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy the moment. If it doesn't happen the first time, don't worry, practice makes perfect, and if you don't ever squirt it's okay too, each pleasure experience is different and valid.
Remember that sometimes the things we see online or on tv are not as they seem, don't let the exaggerated images of adulthood overwhelm you. Self-exploration should be about getting to know your body and overall having fun!
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The Conversation. 2020. Health Check: Does The 'G-Spot' Exist?. [online] Available at: https://theconversation.com/health-check-does-the-g-spot-exist-56491
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